Reviewed by Allen Orr
“6 Habits of Highly Effective Bosses,” written by Stephen Kohn and Vincent O’Connell, is a book that focuses on providing six key points for managers to follow in order to establish good rapport with their employees, or “reports” as they refer to them.
The principle that underlines the whole book is that “management is a relationship-building role” (21). Kohn and O’Connell suggest six tips that managers should follow. The first three are the building blocks for being an effective communicator.
The first habit is to expand one’s self-awareness. One can do this mainly by urging and actively seeking out constructive criticism and feedback from co-workers. A manager should engage in psychological tests to discover just what type of person they really are, so that he can learn to relate better to others. Self-discovery and self-awareness of how one acts in situations is critical to handling real situations in the company environment.
The second habit that all managers should take on is to be empathetic towards others. This means developing and refining one’s listening ability. Listening is one of the most important things that a manager can do in order to relate to employees. The next step is to try to relate to an employee’s feelings through past experiences. This will make the employee feel like the manager really cares, and that he will take the situation into personal consideration.
The third habit, and final building block, is to follow “Golden Rule Principles” – treating others as one would like to be treated. This involves both listening to an employee’s problem, as well as acting upon it in a manner that conveys respect and care. Managers should put themselves in the employee’s shoes and try to make sure they handle situations the way they would want their situations handled.
These three habits form the building blocks for success in a managerial role.
The next two habits comprise the second level of the pyramid. They focus on building judgment, perspective, diplomacy, and tact.
The fourth habit that all managers should get into is to maintain proper boundaries. This mainly involves non-work related issues between the manager and his reports. It includes avoiding potentially threatening situations, such as sexual harassment. Also, managers should always be kind, and befriend his reports, but never allow further developed friendships to occur. If this happens, it could undermine the manager’s authority, and potentially cost him his job.
Criticizing reports carefully and “artfully” is the fifth habit for managers to develop. Criticizing employees always has the potential to spark certain amounts of distaste for managers; however, if done carefully, it can be very effective. Kohn and O’Connell have a simple measure for doing this. First, ALWAYS start with a positive statement, instead of starting right in with the criticism, for this takes the edge off of the situation. Second, the manager should very gracefully insert the criticism OF THE SITUATION, not of the report. Then, close with support of the work, but with a subtle reminder that an improvement in work will benefit the whole company and the employee himself.
The sixth and final building block and tip refines rapport-building, and it is flexing to other people’s styles of work. There are four different types of employees: analytical – who do not express much, but get the work done right the first time; amiable – who are friendly, but do not always get it right the first time; the expressive workers have a high amount of energy for both getting the work done and expressing themselves; finally, the drivers do not express much, but have the hardest drive for getting the work done. Managers must be flexible to all employee types.
Kohn and O’Connell have an excellent approach to leadership. I believe that it is crucial to foster friendly relationships with one’s employees so that they do not fear the manager as soon as he walks into the room. Though this is not a day-to-day guide about how to manage or run an office, it is a book about how to effectively relate to employees in situations, as well as just simple communication. This is not a book of management theory, such as Total Quality Management, so it is not comparable to management theory. It is a book intended to help managers relate.
I would highly recommend this book to ANY person who is in Public Relations. The fact of the matter is, anyone who could potentially work in an office both in a report’s role or in a managerial role could benefit, because there is always the opportunity for advancement within the office. This book will help Public Relations professionals relate to almost anyone, because it focuses on effective communication tactics when dealing with co-workers. If PR students read this book they will be very well versed in highly effective communication tactics that will stick with them and prove helpful in dealing with many different situations.
